I found out the sex of all 3 of my children at the 20 week scan. For me, I needed to be prepared and the suspense of not knowing was to much for me.
My first two went exactly to plan, boy and then a girl. When I fell pregnant with my third I wasn’t expecting much of a problem with finding out. I went to my 20 week scan and was told I was having a girl.
So I picked a name, bought all girls clothes and was set ready for her to be born.
I went to the doctor 1 month before I was due and the doctor was concerned about babies growth so decided to send me for an ultrasound. I went to the ultrasound and happen to mention to the sonographer I was having a girl and that my first daughter was only 6 pound 8 so I just figured my girls were small. He measured bub and told me it would be a 6 pound baby and everything was fine. He did however ask who told me I was having a girl, and I told him the 20 week scan.
He then pointed to a part on the baby that, well, only boys have. I was shocked to say the least. I decided to not do anything until I actually saw the baby with my own eyes. I had the baby 2 weeks later, and yes, I had a 6 pound 14 boy.
I wasn’t really that bothered when I had him that he wasn’t a girl, I actually wanted a boy to begin with. I was just happy that he was healthy. It was going to be a loved baby no matter what.
He was my third child and I also had lost my grandmother just before he was born so I had a lot going on and never really thought much of it until it came time to pack away all the pink and replace it with blue. I had picked a girls name and made a pretty name sign which was hanging on the wall. When I took that down and put all the clothes into a box that was when I really started to feel something, even though I had a perfect little baby there, I actually felt empty almost like I had lost a child. It was strange. I felt like I’d lost something that wasn’t there but it was in another way.
That feeling didn’t last long. My little man is 2 now and I couldn’t imagine my life without him in it.
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